on the one hand, i do like the idea; as a basic rule, people shouldn't rape other people, and women shouldn't have to think defensively. but then i'm like, wishes don't make the world go round, and neiher do ideals. asking someone to take agency in defense of their own safety isn't the same as blaming them. self defense and an awareness of one's surroundings is never bullshit.
remember i told you that one of the ways childhood sexual assault survivors sometimes sublimate their memories of assault is through the alien attack dreams, and how i said that was the scariest thing ever to me, because how can you defend yourself against aliens? you'd have to just be afraid? to me, that's what it feels like this thing is saying. all the steps you can take are dumb; the only thing you can do is insist the aliens don't come back.
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Date: 2005-12-01 02:20 pm (UTC)on the one hand, i do like the idea; as a basic rule, people shouldn't rape other people, and women shouldn't have to think defensively. but then i'm like, wishes don't make the world go round, and neiher do ideals. asking someone to take agency in defense of their own safety isn't the same as blaming them. self defense and an awareness of one's surroundings is never bullshit.
remember i told you that one of the ways childhood sexual assault survivors sometimes sublimate their memories of assault is through the alien attack dreams, and how i said that was the scariest thing ever to me, because how can you defend yourself against aliens? you'd have to just be afraid? to me, that's what it feels like this thing is saying. all the steps you can take are dumb; the only thing you can do is insist the aliens don't come back.